What's Important To You!

by: Terri Giosia

There’s a new woman staring back in the mirror, she’s got a glow, new hair cut and color, a fresh attitude and a new found freedom. You’ve got the art of flirting down to a “t” and you’ve practiced a very seductive smile that is genuine and natural…. Bravo!!! And keep up the work that you’ve done as it will only empower and enable you to be “the best you can be” and now you are about to get back into the dating scene.

Consider the following before going online and putting an ad or putting a profile on your local “singles” line.

Chemistry as we mentioned is crucial, but if you are seeking someone to date, get to know and enjoy being with you must set your sights on a man who can go the distance rather than someone who lavishes you with wine, roses and sweet talk. You'll be a lot happier in the long run and save yourself the heartache of trying to understand why the guy said so many wonderful things and then just disappeared.

Overall, most women reluctantly admit that using chemistry as the factor for selecting a man hasn't served them very well. Chemistry leads them astray into intensely passionate, but short-lived relationships that have broken their hearts and been highly disappointing.

Don't get me wrong. Attraction is a critical element for any budding romance. There's no denying that certain spark that makes two people click. The discussion here is about using chemistry as the sole bench mark for selecting which man to "road test." Instead of relying on sexual attraction that probably harkens back to prehistoric times meant to ensure the survival of the species, think about all the qualities that will make for a loving partnership.

If you meet a nice guy who appears to have many of the qualities you desire, but falls short on chemistry, cut him some slack. Get to know him better so you can appreciate who he really is and discover the kind of attraction that builds with time. For a lasting loving partnership, consider kissing chemistry goodbye, and start assessing prospects based on a wider range of characteristics that have more meaning for the long haul.

Things to consider for the long haul.....

• physical attraction

• shared interests

• social compatibility and friendship

• intellectual compatibility

• ability to communicate

• basic values

• level of self-knowledge

• level of maturity and dating experience

• personal and family goals

Love, respect and admire yourself first...then and only then can love grow in your heart for another.

Love is the burning embers of the fire deep in the hearth!

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